SUPPORT

The following resources have been selected for several reasons. They offer support. They offer advice. They are presented by people talking about their own experiences. Activities and/or exercises are included.

The Elements of D8ting: the Essential LGBTQ Guide to Meeting, Connecting, Dating, and Loving

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Hoopla/MWT11825493?searchId=135621&recordIndex=8&page=1

The Elements of D8ing is more than your run-of-the-mill advice column filled with witty dialogue and no purpose. On these pages, you won’t find the top ten ways to make your mate happy or pages of useless information about where to take a first date. This handbook won’t waste your time. This is your guide for the greatest adventure you could ever hope to have–an adventure in internal discovery and self-understanding. Authors Tye Farley and Tosin Adesanya ask you to look inside to uncover your self-worth, wherever it may be buried. With the help of this book, you’ll develop a concrete understanding of who you really are and how you can fit the way you want to, not the way society says you should. Its goal is to get you to understand how the unique you is an amazing you and how you don’t need to be anyone but your true self, despite society’s claims otherwise. With Tye and Tosin’s help, you’ll be on the path to happiness and a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship in no time. The Elements of D8ing isn’t here to give you the answers; rather, it guides you to a place where you can find your own answers about dating, love, and, most importantly, you.

Living Proud! Growing up LGBTQ: Coming Out and Seeking Support

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14833645?searchId=135612&recordIndex=1&page=1

When Sarah recognized she was a lesbian, she found support first from a gay teacher in her high school. Ed was sent to an ex-gay ministry when he first told his family he was gay. Comedian Ellen DeGeneres confirmed her sexual orientation on national television, and international pop star Ricky Martin announced to the world that he was gay on his website. The experience of publicly identifying oneself as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT) is deeply personal for each individual. But while the particulars vary, there are issues and questions shared by all. Should I come out? When should I come out? Who should I come out to first? The most important thing to know is that you’re not alone. In addition to friends, family, and teachers, groups such as GLSEN, the Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network and PFLAG (formerly known as Parents, Friends, and Families of Lesbians and Gays) are there to provide support to young people coming out.

Living Proud! Growing up LGBTQ: Confronting Stereotypes

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14833657?searchId=135612&recordIndex=2&page=1

“That’s so gay!” is a put down sadly still heard in the hallways of many schools. Words have power and can be used to hurt people or make them feel good about themselves. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning (LGBTQ) young people know this all too well. If you let them, stereotypes can hold you back from being the full individual that you are. This book explores common LGBT stereotypes that persist both outside and inside the community. Explore where they come from and what they mean to you. Learn how you can do your part to reduce hurtful name-calling and appreciate LGBT people in all their diversity. Find out about resources that can help and how young people are taking action against stereotypes in their schools and communities.

A Positive View of LGBTQ: Embracing Identity and Cultivating Well-Being

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b13956735?searchId=136295&recordIndex=4&page=1

Positive View of LGBTQ starts a new conversation about the strengths and benefits of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer (LGTBQ) identities. Positive LGBTQ identities are affirmed through inspiring firsthand accounts. Focusing on how LGTBQ-identified individuals can cultivate a sense of wellbeing and a personal identity that allows them to flourish in all areas of life, the authors explore a variety of themes. Through personal stories from people with a variety of backgrounds and gender and sexual identities, readers will learn more about expressing gender and sexuality; creating strong and intimate relationships; exploring unique perspectives on empathy, compassion, and social justice; belonging to communities and acting as role models and mentors; and, enjoying the benefits of living an authentic life.

The Real-World Guide to Coming Out: from Steve Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Hoopla/MWT11688083

We’ve come a long way. But that doesn’t mean that the process of coming out is clear-cut or without obstacles. Introducing an e-book for today’s times–adapted from Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners –designed to help guide men, women, and teenagers navigate what can be uncertain territory. Packed with Q&As, polls, and “Straight Talk” from straight friends and family members), THE REAL-WORLD GUIDE TO COMING OUT covers it all. Why you should come out, and when. Whom to approach first (in a poll, 50% chose a LBGT friend). How to write a coming-out letter. How to tell your children in an age-appropriate way. Staying safe at school and other help for young people. Plus how to handle homophobia and hostility, to tell or not to tell at the workplace, coming out when you’re older, the unique challenges faced by the transitioning person, and becoming a mentor to others.

BIOGRAPHIES

The following resources have been selected for several reasons. You will find artists, celebrities, authors, and athletes who are well-known in the LGBTQIA community and who have been advocates for openness and understanding.

Dan Savage: The First Gay Celebrity

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Hoopla/MWT11444495?searchId=135601&recordIndex=1&page=1

There are many Dan Savages: the author of the Savage Love advice column, syndicated around the country; the radio essayist beloved by This American Life fans; the author of a best-selling book about his gay marriage, and another about his son’s open adoption; the prankster who ruined Rick Santorum’s life; and the founder of the “It Gets Better” anti-bullying campaign. But never before have we glimpsed Savage’s whole life, from his Catholic-school days, raised by a Chicago cop and a housewife, to his current role as a unique American character. For he is unique: while there are many gay and lesbian celebrities, nearly all of them, from Ellen DeGeneres to Elton John, began their careers in the closet. Savage, on the other hand, has always been out and proud. He is thus a pivotal figure in LGBTQ history — and a fascinating man, brought vividly to life in this thrilling e-book.

LGBTQ+ Athletes Claim the Field: Striving for Equality

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Hoopla/MWT11677759?searchId=135632&recordIndex=2&page=1

In 2015, the world watched as soccer star Abby Wambach kissed her wife after the US women’s World Cup victory. Milwaukee Brewers’ minor league first baseman David Denson came out as gay. And Caitlyn (born Bruce) Jenner, an Olympic decathlete, came out as transgender.

It hasn’t always been this way. Many great athletes have stayed in the closet their whole lives, or at least until retirement. Social attitudes, institutional policies, and laws are slow to change, but they are catching up. Together, athletes, families, educators, allies, and fans are pushing for competitive equity so that every athlete, regardless of identity, can have the opportunity to play at their very best.

Transgender Pioneers: Chaz Bono

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14833529?searchId=135592&recordIndex=2&page=1

Chaz Bono has been in the spotlight for the entirety of his life. As a child, he was a star on his parents Sonny and Cher’s variety show. In 1995, Bono’s role as a celebrity shifted after tabloids outed him as a lesbian. Bono embraced his potential and became an LGBTQ advocate. In 2009, Bono further advanced LGBTQ awareness by announcing his gender identity as a trans male. Since then, Bono has shared his struggles and triumphs through documentaries, interviews, and a very public life. This comprehensive biography celebrates the accomplishments of this celebrity activist who has broadened public perspective on LGBTQ issues.

Transgender Pioneers: Lana Wachowski

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14834662?searchId=135591&recordIndex=1&page=1

In 1999, two sibling directors hit it big with their second film, The Matrix. After achieving critical and commercial success with The Matrix, the Wachowskis went on to direct two sequels to that film and a string of other box office successes, including V for Vendetta and Jupiter Ascending. This title tracks the story of sister Lana, recipient of the Human Rights Campaign’s Visibility Award in 2012 for having been the first major Hollywood director to come out as transgender. Since making her transition public, Wachowski has become an important advocate, raising awareness of the unique challenges faced by transgender youth.

Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

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Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? is a memoir about a life’s work to find happiness. It is a book full of stories: about a girl locked out of her home, sitting on the doorstep all night; about a religious zealot disguised as a mother who has two sets of false teeth and a revolver in the dresser, waiting for Armageddon; about growing up in a north England industrial town now changed beyond recognition; about the universe as a cosmic dustbin. It is the story of how a painful past, which Winterson thought she had written over and repainted, rose to haunt her later in life, sending her on a journey into madness and out again, in search of her biological mother. It is also a book about other people’s literature, one that shows how fiction and poetry can form a string of guiding lights, a life raft that supports us when we are sinking.

Witty, acute, fierce, and celebratory, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? is a tough-minded search for belonging—for love, identity, home, and a mother.

HISTORY

There are so many resources out there on LGBTQIA history! The following list includes personalized accounts, very general introductions, a snapshot of the worldwide struggle, and an insider glimpse into recent legislation. There’s even a graphic novel in there that’s an excellent place to start.

Gay Power: the Stonewall Riots and the Gay Rights Movement

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The Stonewall riots were a series of spontaneous, violent demonstrations against a police raid that took place in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn, in the Greenwich Village neighborhood of New York City. They are frequently cited as the first instance in American history when people in the homosexual community fought back against a government-sponsored system that persecuted sexual minorities, and they have become the defining event that marked the start of the modern gay rights movement in the United States and around the world.

Homosexuality Around the World: Safe Havens, Cultural Challenges

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b13667282?searchId=135561&recordIndex=2&page=1

In America, most states don’t allow gay marriage—but same-sex marriage has been legal in the Netherlands since 2001. Homophobia is rampant in Jamaica—while gay people serve openly in the Canadian military. Homosexuality could be punishable by death in Uganda—and yet Spain allows gay couples to adopt children. Explore different countries and learn about their cultural attitudes toward lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people, as gay men and women from around the globe share their personal stories and experiences. Find out how American policies compare with our North American neighbors, Canada and Mexico, and discover how gay equal rights are beginning to emerge in places such as India and South Africa.

Love Wins: the Lovers and Lawyers who Fought the Landmark Case for Marriage Equality

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b1472313x?searchId=135556&recordIndex=4&page=1

The fascinating and very moving story of the lovers, lawyers, judges and activists behind the groundbreaking Supreme Court case that led to one of the most important, national civil rights victories in decades—the legalization of same-sex marriage.

In June 2015, the Supreme Court made same-sex marriage the law in all fifty states in a decision as groundbreaking as Roe v Wade and Brown v Board of Education. Through insider accounts and access to key players, this definitive account reveals the dramatic and previously unreported events behind Obergefell v Hodges and the lives at its center. This is a story of law and love—and a promise made to a dying man who wanted to know how he would be remembered.

Queer: A Graphic History

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14809448?searchId=135536&recordIndex=3&page=1

Activist-academic Meg John Barker and cartoonist Julia Scheele illuminate the histories of queer thought and LGBTQ+ action in this groundbreaking non-fiction graphic novel. A kaleidoscope of characters from the diverse worlds of pop-culture, film, activism and academia guide us on a journey through the ideas, people and events that have shaped ‘queer theory’.

From identity politics and gender roles to privilege and exclusion, Queer explores how we came to view sex, gender and sexuality in the ways that we do; how these ideas get tangled up with our culture and our understanding of biology, psychology and sexology; and how these views have been disputed and challenged.

When we Rise

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14809631?searchId=135534&recordIndex=1&page=1

Born in 1954, Cleve Jones was among the last generation of gay Americans who grew up wondering if there were others out there like himself. There were. Like thousands of other young people, Jones, nearly penniless, was drawn in the early 1970s to San Francisco, a city electrified by progressive politics and sexual freedom.

Jones found community–in the hotel rooms and ramshackle apartments shared by other young adventurers, in the city’s bathhouses and gay bars like The Stud, and in the burgeoning gay district, the Castro, where a New York transplant named Harvey Milk set up a camera shop, began shouting through his bullhorn, and soon became the nation’s most outspoken gay elected official. With Milk’s encouragement, Jones dove into politics and found his calling in “the movement.” When Milk was killed by an assassin’s bullet in 1978, Jones took up his mentor’s progressive mantle–only to see the arrival of AIDS transform his life once again.

MOVIES & TELEVISION

A little bit fictionalized history, a little bit documentary, some serious coming-of-age business, and a lot of light-heartedness, this blog post contains positive portrayals of the LGBTQIA community in film.

The Danish Girl

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b1472070x?searchId=135593&recordIndex=3&page=1

The remarkable love story inspired by the lives of artists Lili Elbe and Gerda Wegener. Lili and Gerda’s marriage and work evolve as they navigate Lili’s groundbreaking journey as a transgender pioneer.

Do I Sound Gay?

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14606628?searchId=135678&recordIndex=4&page=1

After a break-up with his boyfriend, journalist David Thorpe embarks on a hilarious and touching journey of self-discovery, confronting his anxiety about “sounding gay”. Enlisting acting coaches, linguists, friends, family, total strangers, and celebrities, he quickly learns that many people, both gay and straight, often wish for a different voice. What starts as a personal journey becomes a chance to unpack layers of cultural baggage concerning sexuality, identity, and self-esteem.

Glee

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b13487929?searchId=135637&recordIndex=1&page=1

Optimistic high school teacher Will Schuester tries to refuel his own passion while reinventing McKinley High’s Glee Club and challenging a group of outcasts to realize their star potential. Going up against McKinley’s cruel high school caste system and facing harsh criticism from everyone around him, Will becomes determined to prove them all wrong.

The Perks of Being a Wallflower

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14191350?searchId=135594&recordIndex=1&page=1

Freshman Charlie is a loner until he falls under the spell of the free-spirited Sam and her fearless stepbrother, Patrick, in this adaptation of Stephen Chbosky’s best-selling novel.

Ugly Betty

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b13230700?searchId=135640&recordIndex=1&page=1

An unattractive, young Hispanic woman pursues her dream in Manhattan’s publishing world working at a high fashion magazine.

FICTION

There are so many works of fiction out there that this was extremely difficult to whittle down! But here are a few to start out with. These selections include varying degrees of acceptance and questioning, different kinds of relationships, and provide some serious thought-provoking ideas. So many different characters and so many similar themes…

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/GroupedWork/18ced644-2e46-9fd6-8a16-99e02b75ccc9/Home?searchId=135290&recordIndex=1&page=1&searchSource=local

Aristotle is an angry teen with a brother in prison. Dante is a know-it-all who has an unusual way of looking at the world. When the two meet at the swimming pool, they seem to have nothing in common. But as the loners start spending time together, they discover that they share a special friendship—the kind that changes lives and lasts a lifetime. And it is through this friendship that Ari and Dante will learn the most important truths about themselves and the kind of people they want to be.

Boy Meets Boy

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This is the story of Paul, a sophomore at a high school like no other: The cheerleaders ride Harleys, the homecoming queen used to be a guy named Daryl (she now prefers Infinite Darlene and is also the star quarterback), and the gay-straight alliance was formed to help the straight kids learn how to dance.

When Paul meets Noah, he thinks he’s found the one his heart is made for. Until he blows it. The school bookie says the odds are 12-to-1 against him getting Noah back, but Paul’s not giving up without playing his love really loud. His best friend Joni might be drifting away, his other best friend Tony might be dealing with ultra-religious parents, and his ex-boyfriend Kyle might not be going away anytime soon, but sometimes everything needs to fall apart before it can really fit together right.

Every Day

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14140123?searchId=135334&recordIndex=2&page=1

Every day a different body. Every day a different life. Every day in love with the same girl.

There’s never any warning about where it will be or who it will be. A has made peace with that, even established guidelines by which to live: Never get too attached. Avoid being noticed. Do not interfere.

It’s all fine until the morning that A wakes up in the body of Justin and meets Justin’s girlfriend, Rhiannon. From that moment, the rules by which A has been living no longer apply. Because finally A has found someone he wants to be with—day in, day out, day after day.

What We Left Behind

https://catalog.santafelibrary.org/Record/.b14646845?searchId=135367&recordIndex=13&page=1

Toni and Gretchen are the couple everyone envied in high school. When they separate for their first year at college—Toni to Harvard and Gretchen to NYU—they’re sure they’ll be fine. Where other long-distance relationships have fallen apart, theirs is bound to stay rock-solid.

The reality of being apart, though, is very different than they expected. Toni, who identifies as genderqueer, meets a group of transgender upperclassmen and immediately finds a sense of belonging that has always been missing, but Gretchen struggles to remember who she is outside their relationship.

As distance and Toni’s shifting gender identity begin to wear on their relationship, the couple must decide—have they grown apart for good, or is love enough to keep them together?

Will Grayson, Will Grayson

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One cold night, in a most unlikely corner of Chicago, Will Grayson crosses paths with . . . Will Grayson. Two teens with the same name, running in two very different circles, suddenly find their lives going in new and unexpected directions, and culminating in epic turns-of-heart and the most fabulous musical ever to grace the high school stage. Told in alternating voices from two YA superstars, this collaborative novel features a double helping of the heart and humor that have won them both legions of fans.

LGBTQIA TEENS AT THE SANTA FE PUBLIC LIBRARY

Looking for support? Looking for history? Looking for biographies on well-known members of the LGBTQIA community? Looking for a light read with characters you can relate to? You’re in the right place. Here are a couple quick reviews to get you started.

All reviews can be found at Santa Fe Public Library’s online catalog. Feel free to click the links beneath the pictures to find out more, or find your next read! And click on the tags at the bottom of posts to find similar posts.